I have just come back from yet another exhausting business trip. Luckily, what keeps me going is knowing that everywhere I go, I get to compare the hot men I meet to the ones I met before. If you are new here, make sure to check out all the men’s country guides to see how Dutchmen compare in all categories
After years of careful observation, I can safely say that not many of the guys I met/dated can compare to the Dutch males.
In Europe maybe lovely Spaniards or passionate French can be a good match, but everyone else is under a huge question mark.
I’ve tried international dating before, but dating Dutch guys are way above anything else. Dutch guys are rare pearls and you will see that once you start dating one.
Get ready for detailed writing on how to meet Dutch men, including tips for dating a Dutch man. Moreover, here you will find suggestions on where to meet Dutch men and enjoy the quality time you spend together.
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And as an additional reason for you to stay, there will be Instagram photos of sexy Dutch men! Keep reading and thank me later 😉
What Makes Dutch Men Stand out from the Crowd?
Upon meeting new people, you inevitably notice those things that are important to you. Maybe it’s the height, the eyes, or the neck. Or you immediately focus on their personality.
However, to feel attracted to someone you will have to find a balance between the two. To help you make an informed decision, I will start with the things you notice first.
Still, to say that Dutch guys are exclusively like this or like that, then I would be generalizing. Here I will deal with what I could see as prevalent.
And here we go with the first category.
What Physical Traits Distinguish Dutch Men from Other Men
When I first had a chance to get acquainted with the Dutch, they did not seem particularly handsome. With their being mostly blond and often blue-eyed, it took some time for me to get used to their unconventionally good looks. In this sense, they resemble Germans a lot.
Next, Dutch men are exceptionally tall. According to some research, they are the tallest nation in the world.
Naturally, you will find shorter Dutch guys, but their average height is approximately 183 cm. Pretty impressive, huh?
Next, their faces are either round or oval and proportionate to their body. They are characterized by light-coloured eyes and fleshy noses of regular size.
Furthermore, Dutch men are very fit. Although the living standard is very high, and they can afford all kinds of expensive cars, they often ride bikes to work or when running errands. As a consequence, this helps them obtain a perfect body shape.
They are not hunks or exceptionally large this way, it’s just that their bodies are free from redundant fats so they look nice with their shirts off.
Occasionally, they like to spend time in the gym, but they don’t overdo it. The six-pack is not their ultimate goal, but a healthy life instead.
Finally, hot Dutch men take care of their diet and eat healthy meals. They avoid snacks and eat three times a day which only contributes to their overall good health and good looks.
Are Dutch men Stylish?
Well, that depends on what you see as stylish.
Of course, they take care of their looks, but if you expect them to follow the latest fashion trends as Italian men are prone to, you will be disappointed then.
Handsome Dutchmen are known to prefer casual looks over uptight and strictly professional one. Even if we talk about a professional setting, they will still opt for a shirt and a sweater instead of a suit.
Also, once they decide to go for the suit, they will lose the tie so they tone down the formal context.
Of course, I’m not saying they will spend the day in wooden clogs (one of the Dutch symbols), they will simply choose comfortable wear over the cold professional looks.
Next, guys from the Netherlands do not like to experiment with jewelry. Under normal circumstances, they stick to the wedding ring and nothing more than that.
Similarly, they are not fans of “modern” hairdos either. They will mostly go for the regular hair cut, except for those guys who want to make a statement with their hair.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the physical trait ratings for Dutch men, we have also created our own additional rating from the Dutch men we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of the Netherlands and took note of how many handsome men there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Dutch men. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
What Personal Traits Make Dutch Guys so Special?
As for their personal traits, sexy Dutch guys might come to you as a surprise. Honestly, I myself first believed some of Dutch men stereotypes going around. Probably, you’ve heard before how Dutch guys are dull and boring.
While still being unaware of their diverse interests, I was kind of convinced that this was true. Luckily, after a while, I had a change of heart.
1. Gentlemen rating
When you think about a gentleman, the first thing that comes to your mind is stereotypically a man in a suit. Still, even though males from Holland prefer casual style, they are all gentlemen.
On the other hand, they are not stuck-up and cold, but their gentlemanliness comes with an air of humour and casualness.
Yes, he will open the door for you, he will carry your bags, hold your umbrella, and he’ll do t so casually and naturally that you won’t feel he’s doing it just to impress you. Seriously, this comes so naturally to them.
Typical Dutch men are the kind of guys who will pay for the dinner but he will also let you do it yourself if you feel like it. He will not stifle you with imposed gender roles and he will never be bothered with your earning more than he does.
True gent, I tell ya!
Hot Dutch guys are known to have strong beliefs and opinions. Once he sets his mind on something, there’s no chance in hell that he will give up.
Sure they like to do things in their own time, without any pressure, but they will do it eventually.
They care strongly about politics, but they don’t argue about it. An occasional discussion is fine but heated arguments are a big no. They are highly respectful of opposing opinions and will not try to persuade you into thinking otherwise if your attitudes do not match.
As for everyday life, they are also reliable partners who stand by their word. When he makes a promise, he will keep it, don’t worry.
Loyalty is a big issue today since many people have problems practising it.
As for the handsome Dutch guys, loyalty is not something to be concerned about.
They are loyal to their favourite team, their families, friends, and otherwise loved ones.
Of course, you will find an occasional cheater, just like everywhere else. But these are extraordinary cases and are not a rule.
With your Dutch man, you don’t have to worry about being cheated on every step of the way.
As is the case with loyalty, honesty is another trait that people have difficulties with. In general, people tend to bend truth any chance they get so long it meets their needs.
Luckily, Dutch guys are keeping things straightforward in all aspects of life. He will not tell you he’s sick just to ditch you for the night so he can go to the games with the boys.
On the other hand, he will not stifle you with being constantly around, unless you want to. But, when you’re not together, you don’t have to be concerned that he is with someone else.
Of course, you will hear a little white lie every now and then. “Yes, you look lovely in that dress,” even though you both know it’s not true. But, don’t hold it against him. He’s saying it so you can feel more confident.
They are great at that.
5. How protective are they?
Today, being protective is somehow not considered as an important trait. Still, us tender beings like to have a feeling of a strong male in the house.
Again, Dutch guys are as liberal as one can be. But, he will be your pillar of strength whenever you need him to.
Somehow, they are great at saying all the right stuff when you need to hear them. They do this so effortlessly, it’s like they are born with this natural sense of providing support when someone needs it.
6. Are they resourceful?
Dating a Dutch guy is a one-time experience that I strongly suggest you should try. Why?
Well, Hollanders are very resourceful when it comes to providing things to do. With them, you will not get bored since he will always come up with new ideas and activities you can engage in.
Next, although being liberal they will not have problems with being single household providers when the situation calls for.
They don’t have problems with either bringing food to the table or letting you do that, or you can mix and match.
Seeing a Dutchman in wooden clogs and/or riding a bike will not give an impression of a particularly mature man.
And, here I will tell you – don’t be fooled by appearances.
Yes, they will ride a bike to work or the store. And yes, it does look boyish. But, they are all men.
Been there, seen that.
He is mature enough to take care of himself without needing his mamma to cook for him or do his laundry.
Also, he knows how to make his own decisions and knows what he wants from life.
With him, you do not have to worry about doing everything on your own because the only thing he thinks about is getting wasted with the boys.
No, that is not a Dutch guy.
Dutch guys are aware they are not as exotic as Moroccans, or as good-looking as Spaniards.
Still, this does not affect their sense of total self-confidence. And know that theirs is not an obvious one as is the case with the Italians.
They are not boastful or cocky. They know their worth and what they are capable of so they act accordingly.
9. Friendly or Reserved?
I already mentioned that the Dutch people are one of the most liberal people in the world. We know that this is the country where marijuana consumption and prostitution are legal, for example.
Having this in mind, it is impossible to imagine that they would be reserved.
Rest assured they are very open and amicable toward foreigners and are very respectful in communication.
Moreover, they will welcome you into their home after spending only a few days with you.
Dutchmen are mostly blond and often blue-eyed, they look like Germans a lot.
They are exceptionally tall and rated as the tallest nation in the world
They are gentle and friendly as well.
They do things at their own pace and love politics but argue less about it.
You can read the pros and cons of a Dutchman as captured in the article to get a glimpse of what a typical Dutchman looks like and represent.
Where to Meet a Dutch Guy
Meeting guys from the Netherlands came rather easy in my case. Thanks to my profession I had plenty of business contacts who had friends or acquaintances I could go out with.
And frankly speaking, even the professional contacts were not to be disregarded either.
But, if you still haven’t had the chance to visit the Netherlands, you might have some questions about how to meet a Dutch guy.
I already said how Dutch people are open and liberal about stuff, so when it comes to Dutch dating culture they are very open to trying out new things and are into international dating as well.
Moreover, they often reach for online dating websites whether for short-term fun or a lasting relationship.
Depending on what you are looking for, there is a variety of dating sites you can choose from, but Lexa.nl seems to be the most popular among these.
Lexa.nl is inarguably the largest online dating website in the Netherlands. It is a member of the Meetic network operating internationally and is accordingly similar to Match.com.
Now, while its above-mentioned sibling operates globally, Lexa.nl is localized to the Holland area facilitating your search for single Dutch men.
The site records some 1.6 million users so you have a wide span of males to choose from.
Still, to start your search, you will have to register first. The process is no biggie. Make sure to enter your gender and the gender you are interested in. After that, provide your birthday, username and password and the e-mail too.
After this, it would be best for you to proceed with filling out a detailed personal questionnaire since the users tend to pass the poorly written profiles.
Once you made sure these are properly answered, the site offers either the possibility for you to search according to the filters you set or you can let the site make suggestions for you.
In the latter case, you can pass or like someone and when both users like each other, the site notifies you about a match.
With the basic option, you can “flirt” with other users (wink at them) but to have an actual conversation you will have to upgrade to a paid membership.
The site is particularly interesting since it lets you make your own quiz for the people who like you to fill out. Here you can use the opportunity and ask any of the questions you think to be of importance.
Give it a try and meet Dutch guys even today!
Traveller’s Guide to Meeting Dutch Guys
In the previous heading, I revealed an ideal means for you to meet Dutch men even before you head to the Netherlands.
But, let’s be honest here.
There is nothing like a real-life experience. So you will naturally want to go on a date with your Dutch man. And if you wonder where to meet Dutch guys in person, check out this list I prepared to you.
I know we all strive to a perfect first date, so try any of the places from my list and have the time of your life with your cute Hollander.
It’s common knowledge that Amsterdam is the capital and, at the same time, the most populated city in the Netherlands.
It is located in the northern part of the country and is often referred to as the Venice of the North.
The first idea that comes to your mind when somebody mentions Amsterdam is probably legal marijuana which is why you are probably prone to believe related Dutch guy stereotypes.
Well, Amsterdam is so much more than that.
It was founded in the late 12th century as a fishing village on the Amstel river only to grow larger in the subsequent centuries.
Amsterdam, as we know it today, is an important cultural and business center.
But, if you’re planning on having a date in Amsterdam, here are only some of the things you can do.
For starters, you can soak up some of the cultural heritage of the town. For example, you can stroll through Jordaan, a quarter brimming with art galleries, restaurants, gardens, bars, and antique shops.
You can extend the introduction to the cultural heritage by visiting Museumplein, an art dedicated district where you will find Rijksmuseum, the Stedelijk Museum, and the Van Gogh Museum too.
Next, you can take a short trip to the local picturesque surrounding areas and enjoy the breath-taking scenery. Especially if you combine this with beer tasting in the nearby windmills, you’re in for a very fun date.
And for the evening, you can try a canal cruise in the heart of the town. As mentioned, Amsterdam is formed around a river and its canals made it to the UNESCO World Heritage list.
It will make your date all the more romantic and will prep you for a final romantic dinner in the local gardens of numerous restaurants.
And of course, for all of you daredevils out there, there is always the Red-Light District you can visit with your date. Just for fun 😉
My second suggestion for you to take out a Dutch stud, or let him take you, is Utrecht.
It is considered as one of the most appealing cities in Europe and the good thing about it is that you can visit the most notable landmarks within a single day.
Still, for your date, here are a few things you simply must not omit.
As is the case with Amsterdam, Utrecht also brims with museums and cultural and architectural attractions.
To begin with, you can start by visiting St. Martin’s Cathedral whose basic structure was originally built in the 13th century and was subsequently expanded to its form as we know it today. The reason it deserves a place on my list is that it’s truly marvellous and is thought to be one of the most important churches in the entire Netherlands.
In the same line with the previous, you can check out the cathedral tower Domtoren, which rises magnificently above the adjoining buildings, all younger by construction. The visit will be more interesting in the evening since this is when the tower is lit and it will give a romantic intro to the rest of your evening.
Speaking of architectural achievements from the past, the most interesting of these for you will definitely be De Haar Castle due to its fairytale-like appeal.
Next, in Utrecht, you can also visit numerous museums such as Speelklok or Centraal Museum.
Finally, Utrecht can also brag with a canal passing through the very center of the city so you can engage in a casual stroll with your Dutch darling and experience some true romance.
And my final suggestion for you guys is the second largest city in the Netherlands and one of the largest ports in the world.
It’s famous for its lovely setting on the riverside, modern architecture and rich cultural heritage at the same time.
As for some historical places, you can check out The Church of Saint Laurence, the only surviving medieval church in Rotterdam.
The next on your list should be the Witte Huis – the first high-rise building in Europe.
Once you have checked out the historical landmarks, you can take your date to some of the museums, that the city is also famous for. One of these that might be interesting for both of you is the Maritime Museum.
And since you are there already, proceed to the Cube house, only to be bedazzled with its unusual and yet attractive looks.
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Finally, you can enjoy a boat tour just so you can enjoy the view of the magnificent ports. And, if you prefer the view from the air, you can head to the Euromast Tower so as to enjoy the panoramic view of the city.
And if you would rather spend the day in nature, you can hit the Zoo with its botanical gardens or you can escape the city crowd and spend the day in the surrounding fields with multiple windmills.
Of course, it Rotterdam too you will find multiple restaurants and bar that you can grab a bite or drink with your date and see what happens next.
Although it seems that things to do and see in these three cities are more or less the same, you should know that each of them is special in its own way.
Unfortunately, there are no words to describe the feeling you get when you see these for yourself so make sure to go on a proper tour with your date in whichever of these cities you go on a date.
Trust me, it will be worthwhile and it will give you some preliminary idea of what are Dutch guys like in relationships.
Dating a Dutch Guy – Pros and Cons
Naturally, when we talk about international dating, there are too many questions going through your head.
I’m guessing that some of these might be what are Dutch men like?, what are Dutch men like in relationships?, what about Dutch guys in bed – are they any good?
So, for all the American women looking for Dutch men, or anyone else wanting a piece of hot Dutch stud, here comes my list of the good and bad sides when dating a guy from the Netherlands. And, let’s start with the good ones first.
As for the good sides when having a Dutch guy to keep you warm at night, these are the additional benefits.
They are funny
When I say that guys from the Netherlands are funny, I am not referring to them cracking jokes all the time. And to explain better what I had in mind, I will give you a real-life example.
It was a Monday morning and I was in the office writing an e-mail to our Dutch partner. Obviously, my brain had refused waking up, so I wrote the most hilarious e-mail looking for some info I had already received from this guy.
Anyhow, I justified my honest mistake by being sleepy – it was a Monday morning, 7:30 a.m., after all!
The guy said everything was just fine and the thing was forgotten. Or at least I thought so! We did joke a few times about it occasionally, until one day…
My colleagues were visiting an expo and had a meeting with this guy after which they brought me a special present.
No, it wasn’t coffee! It was a coffee thermos! 😀
So, again, their sense of humour isn’t the most obvious one, but it’s most certainly clever and it relies on mutually shared experiences.
So, once you get yourself a Dutch boyfriend, be prepared for a lot of these situations.
They are perceptive and curious about you (in a good way)
I noticed this trait of theirs first through meetings since this was honestly my first contact with the Dutch men.
However, later on, once you get to know them even better, you will realize that it is impossible to hide something from them. (And, now I am not sure if this is a good thing 😀 )
Now, seriously, Dutch guys notice everything. For example, they will not miss your new piece of jewellery, however tiny it was or a new haircut, not to mention every slightest change of your mood. And he will not ignore it.
I remember a completely different occasion when a guy sitting opposite the table during a business dinner asked about the barely visible inscription of a male name on my necklace.
It caught his attention and he just couldn’t resist asking if it was someone special. Luckily for him, it was (only) my brother’s name.
They know all the right words
You know how us ladies can get unnerved when our guy is either too silent or just can’t stop babbling nonsense on the other hand.
When dating a Dutch man, you will not hear the cliché sweet-talking how you are the most beautiful woman in the world.
But, he will certainly talk about the things he would like to do with you. And suddenly, you’ll wish for the same. And I ain’t talking about the things under the sheets only.
He’s such a kind of charmer who will make your day by either saying exactly what you need to hear, without your having to tell him or imply what it is that you need to hear.
Or he will just reach for non-verbal communication – a protective hug and a gentle stroke of the hair that will make your worries seem insignificant.
You will experience a whole different lifestyle
We are aware that things in the Old Continent are way different than the ways of life in the USA. Somehow, the Europeans are more relaxed and this is also true of the people from the Netherlands.
With them, there will always be time for a museum visit, a long walk in the nature or by the numerous fairytale-like castles and canals.
You will get the real sense of how people lived back in the past and still all of that mixed with contemporary architecture and lifestyle.
And by the way, the sex
Somehow, I almost forgot one of the most important things in a relationship.
If you consult the Internet, you will probably end up thinking how Dutch men in bed are among the worst.
But these statistics are based on personal preferences and average public opinion.
I found them to be engaging, committed and taking their time, which is not all so bad.
When we talk about international dating, there will be many reasons, real or unreal, not to date a foreigner.
As for our current topic, I am sure you will find some things to be considered as a setback when dating Dutch men.
And, here might be the most important one, speaking generally.
They are unlikely to get married.
I did mention how Dutch guys are liberal in every way.
As the year pass, the marriage rate is dropping by a significant percentage. So don’t get your hopes up thinking that he’s going to pop the question.
This might be the cause for multiple misunderstandings since to him this is just normal and you might think he no longer has any feelings for you.
So, good luck with this turmoil!
How to Win the Heart of a Dutchman
Winning over somebody’s heart strongly depends on who you are dealing with.
Some people like it when you’re shy and modest, some like it when you are open and talkative.
As for our studs here, these are some of the most important Dutch men dating tips.
1. Be open.
If you want to date a Dutchman, you have to be prepared to share your thoughts and beliefs. This doesn’t mean that he will necessarily agree with you.
Still, he wants to know what your opinions and attitudes are, so don’t hide them and don’t be afraid to say what you believe even if it’s opposing to his views.
2. Show initiative.
The Netherlands is a lovely country. So, as a foreigner and a guest, show initiative to get to know it.
Suggest a trip to the countryside where you can see breathtaking scenery with old castles or windmills. Organize a boat tour on the coastline. Go check the tulip fields nearby.
And why stop here? Show initiative under the sheets too. You will both benefit from it.
3. Be yourself.
Hollanders like to spend time with women who know what they want and how to get it. They don’t like fake people and/or people pretending to be something they are not.
So, if you think about dating a Dutchman, don’t be ashamed to say if you are not familiar with the same topic as he is.
Just ask him and he will be more than happy to tell you all about it.
Similarly, do not pretend to like something just because he likes it. He will end up disappointed once he realizes you’ve been pretending the whole time.
4. Show appreciation for spiritual over the material.
I know how lame this sounds.
But. believe you me, a Dutch stud will appreciate it more if you praise his good nature instead of the car he drives.
They do not ponder a lot about gaining material wealth. They prefer to enjoy life in a different way and money does not play a big role there.
I’m not saying they don’t have any. They just don’t talk about it and don’t consider it to be that important.
5. Language Barrier
International dating is a tricky business since you can often like someone so much that you want to date them. But, it can often happen that you don’t speak the same language.
With Dutch guys, you will not have to worry about this. They start learning English at an early age so they speak it quite well.
Additionally, they are aware that the Dutch language is a real nightmare (sorry, guys, but it truly is), so once they notice you struggling with it, they will immediately switch to English just so you will feel more comfortable.
And, if you wanted to practice your Dutch, you will have to ask them to switch back.
Obviously, the language barrier will not be an issue when dealing with Hollanders.
Top 3 Hottest Dutch men
Finally, as my last reason why you should give a chance to single Dutch guys, here you can find some of the finest examples of Dutch studs.
1. Michiel Huisman
Born in 1981, Huisman is known as an actor and singer.
Before gaining prominence worldwide, he was active in the Netherlands, playing various roles in the Dutch soap operas and films.
As for the audience around the globe, we first got to see him in the Dutch-American war drama Black Book, although the role was minor.
The real worldwide recognition for Huisman came in 2014 when he was cast to replace Ed Skrein as Huisman Daario Naharis in the fantasy series Game of Thrones, Season 04.
Moreover, he played the leading role in the fantasy romance The Age of Adaline alongside Blake Lively at just about the same time when he was filming GoT.
Of course, these are not his only international achievements, but they might be the most notable ones for the time being. And, I am sure he’s got so much more to show.
2. Armin van Buuren
Although my writing may not suggest that the Netherlands has a rich music industry, it’s quite the opposite!
To support my claim, I present to you a world-renowned DJ, Armin Van Buuren.
He may not be sexy or hot in a typical way, but he is actually a true representative of typical Dutch guys.
The winner of multiple musical accolades, he’s been number one DJ on DJ Mag top list on several occasions.
As for his work, he gained prominence by releasing Blue Fear, which led to many other trance hits such as Touch Me, Fine Without You and my personal favourite In and Out of Love, featuring Sharon den Adel.
3. Mark Vanderloo
I don’t know if you are into older guys, but I simply couldn’t resist including handsome Mark here.
This Dutch model born in 1968, has kept some of its youthful charms even today and is still quite a stud.
Check out some of the photos from his youth and you might find him even more attractive now.
With countless fashion shows in his career, Vanderloo worked with all the great fashion names, such as Armani, Valentino, Calvin Klein, Donna Karan, and Guess.
And, once you’ve seen him with a beard, I am sure you will start appreciating the charm of older guys 😉
And with this, I finalize my writing on the lovely Dutch. Some of the most important issues I discussed are Dutch guy dating tips and what are Dutch guys like.
I believe that after this you have all the relevant details to make a positive decision on giving a chance to these lovely gents.
And once you find one, I am sure you will know how to impress him and make your search worthwhile.
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