We can all agree that South East Asia is an amazing well of different people and cultures, but you just aren’t aware of it until you actually go there.
If you are new here, make sure to check out all the men’s country guides to see how Malaysian men compare in all categories.
I had a great time when I was in Malaysia, and it was a real eye-opener when it comes to a lot of things, especially international dating.
Malaysia is a country of pomelo and mamak stores, but what about some sexy Malaysian men?
There are plenty of Malaysian men stereotypes, but I’m here to break some of those and give you the whole truth based on my experience.
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Keep reading to find out more about Malaysian men!
What are Malaysian Men Like?
Well, this isn’t a question that we can answer in just a couple of sentences because we can’t just generalize all the guys in this country.
But, we can still rate them based on some of the basic categories that are important in a man.
So without further ado, let’s answer the question:
What are Malaysian men like?
Firstly, Malaysian people are Asian, so they have certain characteristics that make them look similar to some other Asian nationalities.
You might not be able to see these differences at first if you’re not Asian and this has something to do with the cross-race effect. This is a tendency that most people have: it’s just easier to recognize faces that you’re more familiar with or those that belong to your race.
However, this is just like a skill that you can easily hone.
Malaysian males can have a skin color that varies from fair to darker, but there are more of them with a darker complexion, just as many Southeast Asian people do.
Also, like other Asian people, typical Malaysian men have dark oblong eyes, and having light-colored eyes is considered rare.
Their hair is usually dark or almost black, and they have flat noses.
A thing that Malaysian guys lack the most in is their height.
Unfortunately for American women looking for Malaysian men, most of them aren’t going to be as tall as you would like, with an average height of a Malaysian man at 5 foot 5 inches.
However, their height can also vary, and there are still some tall and handsome Malaysian men, but they’re rare.
Lastly, unlike their Korean neighbors, Malaysian men don’t have slimmer bodies and are more averagely built.
I’m going to have to be completely honest here.
I think that Malaysian men don’t even know what style is.
They absolutely love wearing their sandals or flip flops, sometimes even with socks on! It looks awful!
There are some exceptions, but they’re too rare.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the important physical trait ratings for Malaysian men, we have also created our own additional rating from the Malaysian men we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the single men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of Malaysia and took note of how many handsome men there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Malaysian men. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
Character Traits of Malaysian Men
So, Malaysian men don’t really prove to be the best when we look at them from the outside, but in the end, that’s not what matters.
Dating Malaysian men is more than just their lack of style.
What are Malaysian guys like in relationships?
I have some information that I can share with you about that.
1. Gentleman rating
Malaysia is a mostly conservative country because the majority of its population is Muslim.
This is why gender roles are clearly defined, although less than before.
However, men are still expected to be perfect gentlemen when it comes to going out with ladies, and they live up to that expectation.
Dating a Malaysian guy means that you are going to get absolutely spoiled in every way possible.
They will open doors for you, pull out your chair, and pay the bill, because that’s just the Malaysian dating culture.
All in all, there are exceptions, but most men believe that they should act like this.
I would say that Malaysian men in bed also act like gentlemen, but the truth is that their conservative society frowns upon anything like that before marriage.
Unfortunately, most Malaysian men that I’ve met gave of a vibe of a guy that you can manipulate however you want to.
They for sure lack the assertiveness that every normal woman would want in man, and they let some girls walk over them so much that it’s embarrassing to watch.
They love and respect their family, but they care about their opinion too much if you ask me.
It’s great that you’re close with your family, but you shouldn’t let them control every aspect of your life.
I got to give it to them, typical Malaysian guys are honest.
They won’t lie to you about anything serious, and if you ask them an important question you’ll get an honest and clear answer.
However, they for sure won’t tell you everything and sometimes you might have to question them thoroughly before getting the answer to the question.
As in any country, there are going to be some exceptions to this, but most Malaysian guys are completely loyal to their significant other.
So, no worries, your Malaysian boyfriend will be just yours!
Their views are conservative, but most men would still even forgive their partner for cheating.
So at least we can say that Malaysian guys in bed are loyal.
5. How protective are they?
Honestly, I don’t really know how to answer this one.
On one side, Malaysian men are great and will protect you from other people, but to some extent.
As I mentioned before, they lack the assertiveness, so if it was their family who has something bad to say about you, it’s a question whether he’ll react at all.
Also, they tend to get over-dramatic and jealous over nothing, but at least they don’t like having long and tiresome fights about it.
I still met some hot Malaysian guys that seemed normal, but the majority was as described above.
6. Are they resourceful?
Well, in comparison to some Western countries, I can’t exactly say that dating Malaysian guys will make you a rich housewife, but they still have enough for a person to spend in Malaysia.
However, they’re resourceful in other departments, like housework.
Dating a Malaysian man means that you’ll never have to hire a professional to fix something.
Also, they’re usually amazing cooks. There’s nothing better than sexy Malaysian guys in the kitchen.
Unfortunately, some Malaysian guys that I met were so immature that I couldn’t even look at them.
They show you that they like you by acting like they’re in middle school, and they couldn’t hold a thoughtful and intelligent conversation even if their life was on the line.
You can really see this when they complain about being “friend-zoned”, even though it’s usually their fault.
I’ve met plenty of hot Malaysian men during my time there, but most of them had a big problem: they didn’t know how to ask a woman out.
I don’t know if this is connected to their immaturity or lack of integrity, but the situation for most single Malaysian men is dire.
I Malaysian friend of mine told me that she had a friend who liked her for years, and everybody knew that because it was so obvious and still, he never asked her out.
Except for some of them, Malaysian men lack the confidence that women like.
9. Are they friendly or reserved?
Despite their lack of confidence and the fact that they’re conservative, Malaysian people are extremely friendly, especially towards foreigners.
I didn’t have any trouble while I was visiting Malaysia and I met some people that I’ll stay in touch with for the rest of my life.
I know that international dating can be hard and that Malaysian men make it harder because they’re so insecure, but at least you will get to know them as friends for a while before you choose to go any further.
The few things you have learned so far about Malaysian men personalities may not be enough for you to want to jump in, right? I know, so come along, read further to find out more about Malaysian culture and how their men can make you happy in a relationship.
Pros and Cons of Dating a Malaysian Man
Now that I answered the question “What are Malaysian guys like?” I have some other things that you should know.
As with any nationality, there are pros and cons to dating Malaysian men, and I’m here to present you with both sides of the coin and break some Malaysian guy stereotypes.
Let’s answer the question: What are Malaysian guys like in relationships?
1. They want to get to know you before dating
When you first meet Malaysian men chances are that they won’t immediately ask you to go out with them even if they’re the confident and mature type.
This is because Malaysian people, in general, prefer to get to know the person that they want to date before getting into a relationship with them.
Additionally, you should know that for them when you start “dating” you’re actually starting a relationship.
2. They’re loyal
One of the best things about Malaysian dating culture is the fact that Malaysian men are so loyal, both physically and emotionally.
They believe in trust and communication between the two people who are in a relationship, and they won’t go around sleeping with other women.
This is also connected to their conservatism, and they are used to having just one partner during their life.
Well, at least most of them won’t.
3. Amazing cooks
Trust me, you will want some handsome Malaysian guys in the kitchen.
Honestly, I don’t know where they get it from, but for some reason, a lot of Malaysian guys that I’ve met were actual gods in the kitchen.
One of the biggest Malaysian guy dating tips that I have for you is to make your date cook you up some indigenous food. You won’t regret it.
1. Not assertive enough
As I mentioned before, Malaysian guys have a real problem when it comes to assertiveness.
I’ve witnessed some of them act like slaves to their girlfriends, or even taking no action at all when they’re in front of the girl that they like.
And I’m sorry, but this the worst attribute that a man can have.
Of course, too much assertiveness is bad, but it’s nice to have a guy who doesn’t let people trample all over him whenever they can.
2. Not stylish
If you were hoping to meet some hot Malaysian guys dressed to the nines, you’re in for a disappointment.
As I mentioned before, his naturally warm country is filled with guys who seem like they don’t care about the way that they look but some of them still think that they can get any girl they want.
3. They’re predictable
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You were hoping for an exotic adventure? Pause. You can only pick one of those things. And it won’t be an adventure.
Besides being conservative, Malaysian guys are also the most predictable and boring bunch ever.
I guess that this is good for people who want a calm life, but each to their own I guess.
How to Meet Malaysian Men
Now that you learned all you need to know about what they’re like, it’s time to teach you how to meet Malaysian men. If you’re interested.
Since they’re so conservative, you might want to skip trying to meet people in bars or mamak stores, not that any guy there would have the confidence to approach a woman.
However, if you really want to meet single Malaysian guys in person before you start dating them you could maybe do it through some mutual friends.
However, there’s no need for all that, because Malaysian people, even though they’re conservative, recently started using dating apps and websites.
Well, most of them claim that they only use them to make friends (yeah right), because one-night-stands and similar things are frowned upon.
Although, for them it’s kind of natural to become friends first and then to start dating.
The best dating website where to meet Malaysian men has to be Malaysian Cupid.
It’s great for international dating because it’s a host to hundreds of thousands of people from Malaysia, but also from all over the world.
However, you should take your time when you decide to make a profile on this site, because it could take a while.
The first steps are easy, you just have to sign up using your email address, name, and profile photo.
Make sure to pick a good and high-quality photo of you, because it will make your chances of getting a match better. You can also upload more photos to your gallery later on.
And then comes the personality test. This is the part that’s going to take you some time to fill out.
Not because it’s long, but because you should think about what you’re writing down and how that makes you seem to other people.
There’s a part that you can fill out about yourself and about the person that you’re looking for, and you’re done.
After that should fill out the Cupid tags to show in more people’s searches.
And you’re good to go meet Malaysian guys!
However, this dating site, like any other, is not free to use, and you only get limited access if you’re a free member. You aren’t even able to send messages.
That’s why I suggest hanging out on the search page and checking out profiles until you\re fully ready to commit.
And that’s how to meet a Malaysian guy!
How to Conquer a Malaysian Man’s Heart
Now that you know where to meet Malaysian guys it’s time to give you some Malaysian men dating tips!
1. Pay attention to him
The best way to let a Malaysian guy know that you’re into him and to make him fall in love with you is to give him attention.
Let’s be honest, we all love attention and it’s something that we live for.
Malaysian man likes a woman who will pay him undivided attention and who will show him that he’s the only man for her.
This might seem like such a general rule, but I feel like some women forget that a man can’t read your mind and that sometimes you have to flat out tell him how you feel about him, or at least show him.
2. Respect him and his family tradition
I know I mentioned that they lack integrity and that most of them are easy to manipulate, but that doesn’t mean that you should do it.
If you disrespect a man and his family he might be fine at first, but there’s always a line that can be crossed that will make him leave.
So show him that you respect him and his decisions. Show him da you respect his family because he loves them and he hopes that one day you will become a part of that family too.
And show him that you respect his tradition, because that’s something really important to Malaysian people.
3. The importance of trust and communication
Trust and communication are two things that Malaysian people believe to be the most important in a relationship.
This is what they like to focus on whether they’re married or not, so one of the best tips for dating a Malaysian man that I have for you is to practice and respect those two things.
Your man will know that you’re serious about your relationship if you communicate with him, and he’ll fall for you completely.
4. Learn some Malaysian words
Speaking of communication, what about learning Malaysian?
Truthfully, there’s no reason for you to do this and almost all Malaysian people are fluent in English and you guys will communicate just fine with it.
But also, learning some Malaysian will show your man that you’re serious about your relationship and that you care about his culture, and that’s definitely going to make him love you even more.
I know that the Malaysian language seems impossibly hard, but you got your man right by your side to help you with anything you need.
Plus, it will make your level of understanding each other even better.
5. The natural look
In the Western world, we’re used to going all out when we want to impress a man. A ton of makeup and other products are applied daily, just so we can get that one date.
But Malaysian men are different. They claim to prefer the natural look and think that too many products make women look unnatural.
So stay fresh and don’t worry about that one pimple that you have and put a big smile on your face, because there’s no way that he’s going to notice it anyway.
And if you love makeup, you shouldn’t give up on it completely. It’s not like men can differentiate a natural look from a no-makeup-makeup look.
Top 3 Hottest Malaysian Men
In case you were wondering what some of the sexiest Malaysian guys look like, I made a list that will portray them the best. Enjoy!
1. Fattah Amin
This actor might be hot but, unfortunately, he’s not single.
This dark-haired heartthrob is one of the rare Malaysian men that actually have style. What?
Well, no wonder he’s taken than!
And he’s got some talents! Besides being an actor, he’s also a singer.
Although he had a rocky start with his acting career, he’s gotten much better in the latest releases.
2. Hael Husaini
This 32-year-old Malaysian is a true musical talent.
He’s one of the hottest musicians in Malaysia right now, especially because he’s not just a singer. This man is also a producer and a songwriter, making him a real powerhouse.
He’s vocals are out of this world, and so are his looks.
Although the mustache and the completely straight eyebrows make him seem kind of weird, it’s definitely a good kind of weird!
3. Wak Doyok
Who let this older gentleman look like this?
Wak Doyok might be 40 years old, but that doesn’t stop him from being an entrepreneur, TV show host, and a fashion icon.
It’s not often that we see a man with so much swag, no matter where we are in the world.
Also, his beard and mustache make him look absolutely amazing.
Dear girls, if you are into Malaysian men, then you will be happy with all this information as it will most definitely help you win one over.
You can also make use of the ultimate guide for online dating to keep a Malaysian man stay will you as long as you intended.
I wish you all the luck on your conquest and have fun!