Hey guys and gals and welcome to my online dating safety tips article! Meeting up with your significant one at a local coffee shop for lunch is ‘So Yesterday’ compared to the new trends in dating. These days we meet, connect and get romantic with suitable singles (or not so single individuals) through the use of private messages, virtual winks or by filtering out candidates by age, sex, location, self summary, activities that they like, favorite music or movies, height or even weight. So popular is online dating that more than 25 million people searched for that special person in 2011, and that was only in one month. However, just as how we take precautions when meeting and connecting with someone offline so should we too exercise care when dealing with that potential sweetheart online. That being said here are some useful tips that you can use to remain safe while engaging in online dating. Here is another site that talks about online dating safety that I recommend. Let’s get right into my online dating safety tips article! Some other articles that you might like includes my romantic evening ideas article, online dating first message tips as well as how to start a good first date conversation.
Online Dating Safety Tips One – Keep Your Contact Information to Yourself
Take control of the information that you share online. This is especially true for people who use multiple online dating platforms. Sometimes when you use so many different online platforms you feel like you “Own” the internet, however, this can put you in a vulnerable position. There is a major difference between being internet savvy and internet secure. Consider this fact: even if you do not include your address, personal email or contact number in your online dating profile it can still be found via your various social media accounts. You see, if someone is looks what they see on your online dating profile they can simply search for you by name on Facebook in order to get your contact number and/or address. Not only would they have found your contact number but they can also see which coffee shop you visited in the past hour. When using online dating services such as Chemistry.com and Zoosk, make sure that you adjust your security settings on your social media accounts. Additionally be mindful of apps such as Instagram and Foursquare that gives you the ability to post your specific location.
Online Dating Safety Tips Two – Become a Detective
We know that it can be hard to get the truth from a potential love interest online given that communication is mostly conducted via impersonal methods such as emails and instant messages; however, with practice the truth can be had. Since you will not have the luxury of looking at the person while they are telling you a story or answering your questions you can attempt to get the truth out of them a different way (or at least spot any holes in their story). One suggestion is to ask them a question and then ask them the same question in a different way at a later date. if they are not being honest you can usually tell by differences in answers. Remember how we said to make sure that you adjust the security settings on your social media profiles? Another way to play detective is to check out someone’s online profile. Use the popular search engine Google to find out as much detail as you possibly can, without becoming a creepy spy. If you are really interested in someone but are concerned about their past then you could hire a private detective to conduct a background check on them, just remember that background checks only reveal what someone has been caught for so a squeaky clean profile doesn’t necessarily mean that they are squeaky clean. We are not suggesting that you walk around doing background checks on everyone as this can be costly and time consuming; we are merely saying that if you are really interested in one or two individuals but have a feeling that something is off then you can explore this option.
Online Dating Safety Tips Three – Trust your Gut Feelings
When all is said and done online dating is no different from dating offline. Just as good guys exist both offline and online so do creeps. If something doesn’t feel right then it probably isn’t. Although we suggested doing backgrounds check if something feels off about a particular love interest, most times (if not all the time) they are not necessary. Sometimes the gut feeling warning signs are little hints (or withheld) information from their user profile or it could be weird emails and texts that seem innocent with an eerie undertone. Whatever the case may be if your gut is telling you to walk away then just cut your losses and move on. Additionally if the person is outright offending you simply report them using the site’s “Report” button. People have found that the paid dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, and HowAboutWe.com have less questionable members than the free dating site such as Plenty Of Fish and OkCupid strictly due to the fact that it costs money. Now this does not mean you should avoid all free dating sites and unquestionably go with any paid dating site, but this is just one factor to keep in mind when considering which dating sites to use and how to use them.
Online Dating Safety Tips Four – Beware of Red Flags
We are sure that most of you have heard the saying that “if it’s too good to be true it probably isn’t”. There is a reason why this statement is true and has held up for so long. If you are checking out a profile that looks so amazing: guy/girl of the perfect height, with the perfect body type, wearing the perfect business (or casual) attire or bathing suit, amazingly white teeth, perfect hair and the works, then guess what – it’s probably a fake profile or a picture that has been stolen from someone else. People steal images of models, celebrities, good looking friends all the time, additionally Photoshop is a powerful tool and when used correctly everyone looks perfect. You can check a photo using a Google image search to see where else on the Web the image is posted. Additionally look out for people who always have a story and want you to send them money or other items. Scammers are everywhere so be careful.
Online Dating Safety Tips Five – Meet Up Somewhere Safe
So you’re spent some time getting to know each other through emails and phone conversations and now you’re ready to take the plunge and meet them in person. This is the time to be extra cautious in dealing with your potential love interest. Make sure to go to a public place for your first meeting. If you drive then drive yourself, if you do not drive then arrange your own transportation, perhaps you can ask a friend to drive you there. Make sure your family or close friends know where you are going, who you are going to meet and the expected time that you will be home. You can even ask them to give you a call at a certain time to check in on you. In fact you can even ask one of your friends to come with you on your date (of not on the actually ate but stay close by). There is no shame in taking certain steps to make sure that you are safe when meeting someone for the first time. if your date is a truly genuine and good person he/she will not feel bad about you taking these steps to be safe.
Other good resources for online dating safety tips include US News, Match.com, and Huffington Post. For other general dating advice for both men and women, check out dating advice for men and dating tips for women.
Now that you know how to stay safe online, it is time to get out there and start dating. The first places I would check out our my comparison articles between the top dating websites. Check out: eHarmony vs Match, Chemistry vs Match, Chemistry vs eHarmony and Match vs PoF to get started!