Chapter 3: Asking For Her Number

Chapter 3: ASKING FOR HER NUMBER

How To Ask A Girl For Her Number Online

Your ultimate goal is to take her on a date. But, your confidence and way of talking while asking for her number will clear the picture if she is interested in you or not.

That is where online conversations can be beneficial. The correct way of online communication can get you on her good books. Plus, online chatting has its benefits.

Firstly, if she is socializing online, it somewhere means that she is looking for someone to spend time with. Who knows, she might even be looking for a boyfriend.

Women online are somewhere more eager to form a relationship, especially if they find that the guy they are talking to is interesting.

Online chatting platforms have this clear motive that mostly results in dating. But, a real-world scenario may not truly give you a hint that a girl is single or not.

For instance, you may be conversing with a girl at a part, only to know that she has been dating someone else. Now, that is embarrassing!

Speaking to a girl at an online dating platform will ensure that you both are interested in hanging out. So, the only work left to be done is to show her that you are the perfect guy for her.

Even though your profile pictures and style of approach are important facts, yet your best way of winning her is by showing her your true self.

For which, you will need to ask for her number so that you can show her how caring and responsible you are on a date. To get her number online, you can check out the following ways:

Initial Steps That You Might Have To Take

Your involvement with someone who doesn’t even know you, will require a bit of work. Note that you are not at an online dating platform to try to hit on her and see if she says a yes or a no.

Your goal is to impress her with your personality, your good side, etc. This is something woman are looking for in the guys they are interested in dating.

Now, keep in mind that there will be a separate guide on creating your profile, but we just wanted to shortly point out some of the really important factors of gaining girl’s trust and, of course, sympathies. 

Here’s what you need to do:

  1. Present yourself in a dramatic but generous way for winning her heart – Use good and natural pictures that are not heavily edited.


Such images should be decent, as your picture is going to be the first thing she sees when you message her for the first time. So, always remember to use your best image.

  • If possible, go for a professional photo shoot and use an image from that collection to impress a girl online truly.
  • Now, images that you use for showing off your lifestyle can also have an impact online. Women love men who share images clicked in beautiful locations or have a good lifestyle to flaunt.
  • Do not overemphasize the luxurious side of your life, if you have it. Plus, being honest in the images is the key.
  • Do not use a fake image that has nothing to do with you and your way of living.
  • Do not write long descriptions in your profile. Surely, giving information about yourself is good, but overdoing it will look boring. Keep it interesting and short.

Creating A Positive Image

Now that you have understood the initial steps, it is time to know how to create a positive vibe in front of her. This will help you get her number faster. 

Besides a positive profile and presentation, you also need to show a positive image while you are conversing with a girl online.

Initially, you both will have a limited approach to know each other. Your only mode of conversation will be a screen where you will chat through words.

Through carefully planned words and sentences, you will get to know each other better. That is where you have to ensure that you have a positive vibe in front of her.

No girl would feel like giving out her number to someone that she does not even feel connected with. So, it is important that you create a mutual connection first and then move to the next step.

This positivity between you two needs to show that you are emotionally connected to her and that you understand and respect her feelings. She should feel that your efforts are genuine. 

So, how are you going to create that positive connection?

Here’s what you can do:

  1. Choose conversational topics of mutual interests. Even if some of the topics are not of your interest, you should still try to talk about those subjects. This is necessary to ensure that she feels excited to interact with you. 
  2. Ask about how her day was. You need to take care of it in such a way that it does not feel like entering her personal space.

    But, your efforts should be enough to show that you are there to listen to her and be with her during your online conversation.

  3. Try to build a connection by showing interest in similar things as her. For example, if she loves to go for parties on a particular day, then you should also show her that you too love parties. You never know when you both form a connection and go for a real-world party in the upcoming days.
  4. Don’t try to give advice on everything without even hearing her out. She might feel irritated when you try to show her that you know a lot about the world. Take it patiently and learn to listen to all she has to chat with you about.

With time and patience, you can accomplish your first goal, which is to create a positive image of yourself in front of her. With a positive image, you will have a better chance of getting her number for an actual date.

Make Her Feel Comfortable

Asking a girl for her number needs patience. Your dedication to knowing her better will help her feel comfortable.

In addition, making her feel interested in you will give you the courage of asking for her number and move to the next phase in this relationship.

As she begins to feel interested in you, it is time for you to make her feel comfortable in your presence. Even in the online world, this is of utmost importance.

You do not want to give her the wrong idea by asking or demanding something that she is not comfortable with.

For instance, she may not like a guy who keeps asking about her minute-to-minute life activities. She may be looking for some personal space too.

So, even if you are connected through an online chatroom initially, you ought to respect her privacy. Learn to give respect in a relationship, no matter how big or small it is.

When you feel that she relies on you more, you are ready to move to the next step.

Asking For Her Phone Number

Finally, you have reached the step that you had been waiting for. If you have followed the above steps carefully, it is safe to move to this step.

It is crucial to know, for your self-esteem, that most of the girls will give you the number upon asking.

But, it does not mean that they are looking for a date or a relationship. Some of them may provide it as a gesture of kindness.

So, make sure that she is going to be truly interested in dating you later. Now that you have made sure of her interest in you, it is time to ask her the question you had been waiting for.

Remember that you do not want to sound rude and demanding for her phone number. It can be a little flirtatious but should still look decent. Here are some ways that you can use:

  • “Can I have your number or should I request Siri to find it for me?”
  • “How will I flirt with you in the middle of the night if I don’t even have your number?”
  • I usually don’t ask for numbers, but I feel I will be pissed a lot at myself if I do not ask for yours… so can I have it.”
  • “You have a nice phone, but it will be even nicer with my name in your contact list. So, can I have your number?”
  • “I’m running low on credits… can you text one person for me with “ok”? (and then give her your number to text you with “ok”)

It is up to you to be really creative with similar lines. Just remember, they should not look too cheesy or she may feel that you are not worth dating.

It is going to be hard to keep a girl glued to you on an online platform. But, your dedication and patience will bear you the fruits of a successful relationship.

Just remember to ask for her number in the same way as the above steps. If you are reckless, you may lose your connection with her.

For succeeding in getting her number, you have to build the relationship gradually. Get to know her. Make her feel that connection too.

Also, remember not to overthink the complete procedure. Just be confident and ask for her number as soon as you see that she feels comfortable at chatting with you (for a while).

In the end, you will feel victorious when she gives you her number. After that, it is all about hearing her sweet voice and enjoying her company on the phone.

The next step in this procedure is about asking her on a date. That will be discussed in the next part of this guide. For now, good luck at getting her number.

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