You’ve probably seen a lot of popular movies where typical Russian men are shown to be these alcohol-obsessed, violent, hulking giants with two or three brain cells, always willing to throw a fight whenever they heard someone speak English or has a negative opinion on communism.
Rest easy ladies, this stereotype (however accurate in some very specific cases) is only that – a stereotype. Reality is much more, shall we say, alluring.
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On average, Russian men are tall, strong, blond, very handsome. Oh, what am I saying? They are hot and very sexy. A Russian man’s physical appearance is to die for.
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And when I say tall, I mean, on average, taller than Americans, hotter than Colombians, and stronger than Ukrainians (bad pun, huh?).
They can at times be a bit too rowdy and rough, but under all the bravado there lies a heart of gold full of love and respect for the chosen of their hearts and beds.
I’ve spent a lot of time abroad, met a lot of Russians, and figured out how they think, how they act, and how they eat!
Do you wish to learn how to conquer a Russian man’s heart? You’ve come to the right place!
I’d be more than happy to let you in on a couple of neat little secrets to help you out when it comes to dating Russian men, whether you’re looking for an adventure, or something much more meaningful!
What are Russian Men Like?
Let’s check out the most important traits of Russian men, and rate them overall!
Physical Appearance
Looks-wise, Russian people are Caucasian, but they some Asian traits as well, such as sharp eyes and slightly pointy ears. And no, they are in no way elves from fantasy literature, although they can look the part.
It’s hard to give you a definite look of the average Russian man – Russia is a huge country, with lots of ethnicities, and each of them has its peculiar look. But that won’t stop me to give you at least some general data.
You can find Russians as red-headed and freckled as the Irish, as fair of hair and blue-eyed as the Scandinavians, and equally as tall, and dark-haired and dark-eyed as the Spanish, and equally as suave, and yet, so enchantingly Russian.
So, when it comes to Russian men, the keyword is variety.
On average, Russian men weigh about 150-160 lbs and are about 5’9 – 6’ tall, which is pretty neat for oh so many reasons.
How can you not fall a tall, dark, mysterious stranger, especially one with a sexy accent?
Strong arms, deep eyes, chiseled chin and on point cheekbones – add these in the mix, and you get yourselves a pretty good picture of how Russian men look like.
Sounds dreamy? That’s because it is, ladies! And unlike most dreams, this one can come true pretty easily!
Russian men tend to keep themselves fit, so chances are that the man you fancy is into one or more sports, or some other outdoor activity.
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Being so active keeps them in pretty good shape, which can be quite useful during those long Russian nights!
Remember, though: looks are fairly important, but only at first. It’s the character of the partner that keeps us hooked on the feeling.
Russian Men Style
Compared to some other nations, you may get the impression that Russian men dress rather dull, but it’s the part of their style.
When they are off to work, you may see them wearing shirts and some casual jeans. When they return home, they switch their clothes and opt for some comfy sports variants.
Younger guys like sweatpants and boots, and it’s not rare to see them wearing layered jackets.
As the climate is rather colder there, they also wear warmer sweaters, leather coats and leather hats as well.
Russian men are hot, no doubt about it, but let me show you just what kind of people Russian men really are.
Now, let’s check out what are Russian men like in relationships. Or if you search for nothing complicated, let’s find out how good are Russian men in bed.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the important physical trait ratings for Russian men, we have also created our own additional rating from the Russian men we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the single men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of Russia and took note of how many handsome men there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Russian men. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
Character Traits
Character-wise, Russian men are an interesting mixture of traditionalism and modernity, of respect towards authority to outright rebellion whenever possible. Let me try and help you untangle this particular coil for you. It will be of great help in your love conquest.
1. Gentlemen Rating
If there are any two words to describe Russian men in a relationship, it’s romantic and chivalrous.
They’re always ready to carry your bags, open doors in fro not you, surprise you with flowers in just the right moment, unashamed and proud being in love with.
I say unashamed, because however manly they are, Russian men are deeply emotional, and they’re not as reluctant to show this part of themselves as much as most men in other countries.
Some of the things they do may seem disrespectful, or like they consider you weaker and not as capable, but it’s anything but.
This is simply how they express their admiration and respect, which is perfectly natural for them. For them, women are anything but “the weaker sex”.
2. Integrity
Remember the October Revolution? Well, rebellions and revolutions are kind of engrained in the Russian DNA.
School teachers, bosses, presidents – if a person is in any kind of position of power, you can be sure that the average Russian man will be distrustful towards them.
And I mean that. No matter how good the situation is, the Russian man will likely be on the defensive, often openly so.
The distrust of authority and rebellious instincts run deep. For ladies into bad boys, this should be an invitation enough.
3. Honesty
Oh, the mystery of the Russian soul, the depths and the strength of their hearts… Well, it’s not that big of a mystery really.
Just imagine the heroes of Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky’s books, and you’ll get an insight into the nature of the Russian man.
We’ve already shared much about their character – it’s like that, but not as idealized. Russian men are lovely, but not flawless.
However, one thing is sure- they are honest to the bone. In general, they’ll have no problem telling the truth, no matter how hard it can be sometimes.
4. Loyalty
Don’t get me wrong, it’s 9/10 just because you can never be sure!
They are loyal, but who knows, they just might be good actors while sneaking around your back. Jokes aside, once they put their beautiful blue eyes on a girl, the universe starts spinning backward and there’s no other focus.
They’ll look at you as if you were a saint, protect you and love you probably longer than they’ll live. That’s one of the most impressive traits of Russian men.
5. How protective are they?
Another strong trait of Russian men is protectiveness.
They’re very protective when it comes to people they hold dear, which is one of the integral parts of their identity, and history.
Russians see it as their duty to stand in the way of all conquerors, from Napoleon to Hitler, not expecting any praise nor gratitude.
Much like Americans, they feel like they must protect the world, starting from their special someone.
6. Are they Resourceful?
Russian men are very resourceful. If you have a problem, don’t be afraid to ask.
If he can’t find the solution, he’ll point you towards the person who does.
They’re experts in finding short-term solutions on the go until something more permanent can be found.
7. Maturity
Russian men are very mature. Even in their twenties, when most Europeans don’t even think about settling down, Russian men are perfectly ready to raise a family.
Italians and Germans, for example, usually start thinking about starting a family around 30-35. Many Russian men, however, are ready to start theirs once they reach 25.
They’re not afraid of commitment and responsibility, always ready to tackle them. For them, that is one of the essential parts of one’s life, and they’re eager to live it to the fullest.
Another paradox. How can they be so resourceful, and yet lazy? Well, somehow, it works for them. It stems from the notion of expediency: use the minimal amount of energy and resources to do the maximum number of activities.
They just push it a bit too far from time to time…
8. Self-confidence
Damn, they are self-confident. No matter of their physical appearance, they emote such gigantic confidence.
It’s been a while since I was in Russia, but I’m still wondering how can they be that much confidence, even when they look like transgender.
You’ll see Russians with no problem approaching you on the street, which is quite rare to see in any other country. Which is a plus, I guess.
9. Are they Friendly or Reserved?
They may act a tad reserved until they get to know you better, but Russian men love hanging out with their friends.
Interpersonal relationships are very important to them, and they devote themselves to maintaining them, both familial and friendly.
This not only makes them loyal family men and friends, it also makes them caring and passionate lovers!
They love going out, they love partying and can outdrink anyone with relative ease, so be careful: never challenge a Russian man when it comes to drinking games!
Russian men are so friendly and they will like you to learn their language as well.
There are so good looking and they have high score and all the categories. Visit Russia, experience the extreme weather and let them keep you warm with Vodka.
Dating a Russian Man: Pros and Cons
As you can see, there’s a bit of everything in a Russian man. They’re like onions (I know, I know, not the loveliest comparison, but it works) – peel layer after layer, and you’ll always find something amazing, intriguing, and alluring.
Regarding that, here are some pros and cons of dating a Russian man.
Pros:
1. They Know What’s Really Important
As we’ve mentioned, Russian men have their priorities straight. Family comes first, then friends, then everything else.
They avoid letting their job issues intrude their private life if at all possible – family time is family time, everything else doesn’t matter.
For that reason, a Russian man tends to be well organized and plan their time to balance job, side activities, and family time, the family time (and consequently, the time he’d spend with you ) always being his number one.
2. Living their Lives to the Fullest
As stated earlier, Russian men are full of life and passion.
They may seem cold and distant until they get to know you a bit better, but in truth, they’re anything but.
They have a keen eye for all things beautiful, they love a good song, good food, and good music, and of course – good vodka.
And the things they love they love with all of their hearts. There is no moderation: for them, it’s go big or go home.
Cons:
1. Too Traditional
We’ve mentioned before that Russian society is both deeply traditional as well as modern, and that reflects upon the Russian man. They may, at times, come off as too old fashioned, hard-pressed by the social rules and expected behavior.
A man in Russia is expected to be strong, resourceful, dependable, and stable, and should be married and have a family, all patriarchal rules respected down to the t.
For a woman, especially a foreign woman, that can be a pretty restrictive way of life.
2. Alcohol Issues
Russians love to drink. The drinking aspect of their socializing is very important. If a man can deal with great amounts of alcohol, he shows how manly he is and he knows how to party hard.
That’s not a problem in and of itself, but there are often cases when the bottle gets the better of them, and alcohol turns into a serious addiction problem, both for the man and for his family.
3. Superstitious
Yes, you read it right: Russian men are kind of superstitious.
They have a lot of habits which serve to ward against bad luck, like the wood knocking, common all around the world, or throwing salt over their shoulders.
They also never shake hands over a threshold, they’ll never wish you a happy birthday even a second before midnight, and they’ll take good care not to give you an even number of flowers.
Needless to say, they don’t actually believe in all this. Still, they do it all the same.
How to Meet a Russian Man
If you wish to find yourself your very own Russian prince, the most natural thing to do is, of course, to go to Russia.
However, the smartest – and safest! – thing to do before that radical step into the unknown is Russian Cupid.
Russian Cupid is a neat dating website created by the Cupid Group. Cupid Group is a multinational group of folks who love connecting people, which they’ve been doing all over the world, Russia included.
Their site works just like Facebook. Registering is free, so all you need to do afterward is log in, add some basic info about you, and set activate all the filters which help you to find your perfect match. Appearance, religion, location, possibility to move – they’re one of many.
It’s a great place to meet Russian men, actually, sexy Russian men and start your Russian men dating experience.
If you opt for premium membership (this one is not free, however), you can use advanced options which can boost the visibility of your profile, and help you get rid of those pesky ads.
If you’re ready and willing to find and date a Russian man, this is site is exactly what you need! A lot of single Russian men await!
How to Conquer a Russian Man’s Heart
Supposing you successfully found your perfect match via Russian Cupid, here are some pros and cons of dating a Russian man, some insight about things you can expect in the process, and a couple of pieces of useful advice.
Make Him Breakfast
Russian men, as attentive as they are towards their partners, really love to be shown some attention back, although they’ll never say it out loud. One of the best ways for you to do so is to make him breakfast, or any meal really. He’ll return the favor tenfold.
Challenge Him!
Russian men love to discuss (and often argue about) their viewpoints about anything and everything, so don’t be afraid to question them.
Feel free to disagree, defend your point of view, find creative ways to lightheartedly poke fun at him, and he’ll be yours!
Let Them Be Chivalrous
Russian men, as we have stated earlier, are very gentlemanly, and they enjoy that. It comes naturally to them since they were being taught to treat women like proper ladies from childhood.
You don’t need to be some kind of a damsel in distress for him, but do allow him to open doors for you, carry your bags, pay the bill in the restaurant, and fix stuff around your home. This is simply the way they show just how much they value you and care.
Tidy Up His Room
Yeah, I know how this sounds, but trust me, it’ll mean a lot to him.
Chances are, you’re date will be very tidy, prim and proper, but he’ll appreciate it if you put an errant trinket/piece of clothing to its proper place from time to time.
Make no mistake; this is by all means not expected of you! He will let you know that you don’t need to do that.
But however he may say that or even act as if you insulted him, I assure you he’ll be more than appreciative.
Language Barrier
The language barrier is a natural issue when it comes to trying to get you a hot and sexy Russian man.
Make no mistake: the stereotype of Russians not wanting to learn English is just that: a stereotype.
There are quite a few hot Russian men who do speak English, and they’ll not miss the chance to demonstrate that to you, but you actually trying to learn Russian? Now that’s hot.
In all seriousness, you trying to learn Russian, as well as teaching him/improving his English will be of immense help in your love enterprises.
Your man will enjoy spending time with you and do his best to sound as natural as possible, but will also do his best to be just the teacher you need.
And personally, Russian is a very musical, sensual, seductive language.
Having a man whisper sweet words in Russian to you will have you purring like a happy kitten.
No need to worry about mistakes or mispronunciations.
Such things happen all the time while learning a new language, and he’ll likely find all your mistakes endearing and adorable.
Still, some misunderstandings are bound to happen.
For example, a friend of mine had her Russian boyfriend (now husband) for dinner. She asked beforehand if he loved spicy food, to which he said yes.
The dinner went well up until the moment he tried her food, and nearly choked!
He did not expect the food to be so hot – spicy! – hence his very intense reaction. Misunderstanding her question, he thought spicy food is food with a lot of different spices!
An understandable mistake, and quite comedic – a great material for stories and, of course, bonding! The more your language skills grow, the better you’ll understand each other.
Remember this, though: love is the universal common tongue!
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Top 3 Hottest Russian Men
1. Dima Bilan
Dima Bilan (real name Viktor Nikolayevich Belan) is born in 1981 and is a famous pop singer and songwriter. And a very, very handsome devil.
He represented Russia in the Eurovision contest on two occasions.
In 2006 he took second place with his song Never Let You Go, but with the song Believe from 2008 he finally won. Sings like an angel, and looks like one too.
Not only can he sing, but he can also play accordion and piano, and if you look at him very carefully, you’ll see why he’s widely known as The Russian Iglesias – he both looks dreamy and has a wonderfully smooth, gentle and sexy voice, much like the Spanish singer.
He’s had a great deal of success in his career besides the Eurovision victory.
Numerous MTV awards, best-selling singles and albums, and concert halls filled to the brim are proof enough of his popularity, and he’s still going strong.
2. Sergey Lazarev
A singer and an actor, Sergey Lazarev is another multi-talented hottie on this list.
Born in Moscow in 1983, he was a part of the group named Smash!, later on starting a solo career.
Just like Dima Bilan, he too participated in the Eurovision contest on two occasions, and both times his songs – You Are The Only One in Stockholm, 2016 and Scream in Tel Aviv, 2019 – earned him third place, with the overwhelmingly positive reaction of the audience.
Lazarev is also a professional actor, graduating with honors from the most prestigious Russian acting academy, MAAT. In 2005 he took part in Lend Me A Tenor, a musical play in the style of Broadway, which landed him 5 distinguished acting awards.
He’s not married, but he has two children (son Nikita and daughter Anya), both born by surrogate mothers. Take your shot, ladies!
3. Vasiliy Stepanov
Vasiliy Stepanov is born in 1986, is a famous young Russian actor.
His debut was in Russian science-fiction action movie The Inhabited Island, directed by the great Sergey Bondarchuk. His father was a police officer, and his mother a teacher.
Even though his dad hoped his son would follow in his footsteps, Sergey opted for the College of Physical Education.
After graduating, he entered a law school, only to end up an actor, having a lot of prominent roles both in Russia and neighboring Belarus.
He’s an incredibly talented and charming young man, not to mention incredibly handsome.
The combination of good looks and open and charming personality make women just flock around him!
Bonus info: he’s an excellent hand-to-hand combatant. Strong, handsome, successful: everything a woman can wish for!
If you’re interested in this gifted, sexy Russian man, look his movies up, and enjoy the view!
Final word
Russian men are more than what is commonly said about them; they are handsome, interesting, tall, protective, resourceful and open to dating foreign women.
Russia has over 160 ethnic groups with so many languages. Visit Russia, fall in love and use the ultimate guide to dating online and be fulfilled in this love adventure with someone of a different culture and background.
I wish you good luck!
