Chapter 10 – Profile Write Up for Women

Chapter 10 – Profile Write Up for Women

Being a woman and trying to find the right man via the internet is not an easy task.

There are a lot of people who just want to get your intimate pictures and would do anything to make you do it.

Therefore, you need to have the perfect profile description when you decide to do this. Let’s see what tips we have prepared for you today.

1. Focus on details

Over the world, there are hundreds of online dating websites and tens of thousands of profiles. Now, you may think to yourself that the numbers are huge and that all of those profiles are different from one another.

Though every person is somehow different than everyone else, it doesn’t have to mean that their online profiles are different as well.

Some people don’t want to spend much time on writing their profile, so they just write generic things that, in the end, don’t say a lot about themselves.

Wrong!

Hi, my name is Amanda, and I am a 30 years-old looking for a relationship.’

Right!

‘Hello, my name is Amanda. I am a 30 years-old doctor from Sacramento.

There I work in a small hospital in one of the city suburbs.

Due to my busy line of work, it is really hard to find someone who is ready to endure living with a doctor. I registered here with the hope that I can find that special person here.

Overall, I am a very funny person who enjoys laughing.

You can basically see me laughing every day, which is something everyone around me likes because I always manage to cheer them up.

When I am free, I like to go out in fresh air, especially in the countryside, where I can really enjoy peace with loved ones.

It helps me relax from all the stress and busy hospital environment.

Every evening, I tend to read, since that is my childhood drug, you could say. I read everything, from fantasy novels to thrillers and crime novels.

If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

These two examples are very much different, as you can see. The first one is kind of generic, you can’t learn much about the person by reading it.

However, in the second example, you can learn a lot more about this woman, what her jobis, what she likes to do in his free time and what kind of person she would like to meet.

In order to attract someone, you need to give them some details, to intrigue them enough to message you.

If you just say that you are a woman looking for a man to spend nice moments with, you are no different than thousands of other people who are looking for the same.

But, adding some details to your profile will make it look alive and more interesting to the people reading it on the opposite side of the screen.

2. Add a question or conversation starter

Nowadays, it is often hard for men to start a decent conversation with women.

Therefore, women often tend to help them a bit.

There is no difference when it comes to online dating.

People usually start a conversation via the internet by ‘Hey, my name is blah blah, how are you doing?’ and such worn-out starters.

Or they are being vulgar and use inappropriate talk to start conversations.

There is no fun in all that.

As a grown-up woman, you tend to look for more, for something that would keep you interested and intrigued for a longer time, in order to keep talking to the guy in question.

Therefore, it is a good idea for you to use the question or mention a topic that guys could use to start conversations.

An Example

‘…If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

As you can see in the example, men could easily start a conversation by mentioning some book or writer, since this woman is a keen reader.

Then, the conversation might go on, depending on how interesting it is to both participants and whether they like each other’s profiles and share similar interests.

3. Make lists

Not all of us are good writers.

But, you don’t have to be Ernest Hemingway in order to write a good online dating profile.

A good alternative to stylish writing is simply to make lists with everything you want to add.

That way, you won’t have to worry much about your writing style and focus on things that you can actually do.

An Example

‘Hi, my name is Anna, and I am 37 years old. I work as a waitress, and I have always been intrigued by whether this type of dating even works, so I decided to try it out.

My hobbies are cooking, swimming, hiking and bicycle riding.

Apart from that, I really enjoy walking and running, but I do that less frequently than previous activities, due to the shortage of time.

I have a Labrador, called Buck and a cat called Stacy. They really like each other.

I’m well-organized, meticulous and funny.

I was married until 2 years ago, but it simply didn’t work out well. I am looking for a nice man who would like to enjoy these moments of fun and happiness with me.

If you are that kind of person and you are sure you could make me laugh, feel free to contact me.’

In this example, you can see everything you would’ve seen if Anna hadn’t used the list and instead wrote it in several sentences.

However, it is much easier to read it like this, and some people prefer simplicity, so don’t be afraid to use lists to write your online dating profile.

4. Don’t be afraid to show your weird side

There are a lot of people trying to find their perfect match online.

And there are even more fake profiles with generic details and interests that are there simply to act as click baits.

Therefore, you will have to make a profile that could stand out of the crowd of fakes and cheats, in order to attract people to read your profile and contact you.

One good way of doing it is by sharing something weird about yourself.

Everyone has some characteristic that makes them different than other people.

It could be anything, from the way you laugh to some phobias you may have, etc.

An Example:

‘Hello, I’m Laura, and I am 24 years old. I am a law student, and I decided to try out this website to find some cute boy since I really don’t have a lot of time to go out because of my studies.

And college boys at my university are just so boring.

What I can say about myself is that lots of people find me to be a very funny and cheerful person, with perhaps too much affinity to dogs.

I simply love dogs. In my home town, whenever I met some dogs on the street, I would bring him to my home and my dad would just go crazy, since we had already had three other dogs.

Apart from reading huge law books, I really enjoy reading novels, especially crime novels and thrillers. My favorite writer is Dan Brown.

If you’re the animal lover like me and you like to spend your free time playing with dogs in nature while resting and enjoying over the nice bottle of wine during nights, feel free to message me.’

As you can see in this example, Laura is a passionate animal lover, which some people might find to be a very cute characteristic, while others will be repelled by this information.

That will help Laura find the boy who really has the same interests as she does, so they can enjoy being silly together.

It’s the same for everyone else, so don’t be afraid to mention something a bit weird regarding yourself.

You never know who might find that to be cute.

5. Use quotes

When you decide to create your own dating profile, you should use everything available to you, whether it is your special skills, some distinctive characteristic or some simple things that may sound appealing to other people.

If you read a lot and you have a favorite writer or even favorite quotes, you should mention some of it on your dating profile.

Some people may find it silly, but quotes can say a lot about people.

They can teach you what kind of person someone is, which is very important for dating, especially if you are looking for a certain type.

6. Say what you like and why you like it

Saying that you enjoy doing something is a good thing for your dating profile, but saying both what you like and why is way better.

Some people like to make a list of random things they supposedly like, just to impress their potential partner and later when they meet each other, they just ignore what they had previously written, which often leads to disappointments.

So, what is the solution? How to make your profile stand out of the crowd of liars?

It’s easy, just be honest and share things that you like, but add one more ingredient.

Give the reason why you like doing all those things.

That way, men will get a better understanding of your personality.

That way, the list of things you like would not just be the list of random things but would become alive and show a picture about who you really are.

An Example

‘…In my free time, I like to go swimming for an hour or two. It calms me and helps me release the stress I get on the job…’

‘…Being a writer is not an easy job.

You could say that every one of us needs to have a certain activity or place to go in order to get some new ideas to write or to deal with the daily stress in order to start fresh the next day.

For me, that stress vent is going on the long run along the shore, where I just turn on some music, put headphones and run for a couple of miles…’

 As you can see, stating why you like something gives a better understanding of your actions and activities, which describes your personality and help boys decide whether you would be a good match for them or not.

7. Don’t be an open book

One of the greatest charms of being in a relationship in the past is getting to know your partner over time.

Online dating somehow changed that.

People tend to write all about themselves, leaving almost nothing to be discovered by talking to that person.

However, that is not always a good thing. In order to impress someone and get to know them, it is much better to leave some things out of your profile and talk in person.

That way, you can try to read a person’s eyes and see their reaction to what you have to say. It’s a pretty nice way to connect with someone and see if there is chemistry between you at all.

It’s all part of the excitement and joy of being in a relationship. Without it, things would get boring too fast, and people would just move on.

8. Don’t focus on just one thing

Being in love with your job or your hobby is nice, but make sure not to talk about only that one thing because men, and people in general, with only one interest, are usually very boring to most people.

Another bad thing about it is that by writing about only one thing, you miss the opportunity to mention your other qualities.

Every one of us has a number of different qualities, even if we don’t know it. The more you write about yourself, the better other people will be able to create a picture of your personality.

1.      Amanda 1:

‘Howdy folks! My name is Amanda, and I come from Houston. I work as a veterinarian, and I’m really passionate about animals.

My job can be a bit stressful, but you know, when you love something, it is not hard for you to do it. Making sure that animals are health really fills me in.

Anyway, if you are a nice man who is interested in meeting up with me, feel free to message me.’

2.      Amanda 2

‘Hello, my name is Amanda. I am a 30 years-old doctor from Sacramento. There I work in a small hospital in one of the city suburbs.

Due to my busy line of work, it is really hard to find someone who is ready to endure living with a doctor. I registered here with the hope that I can find that special person here.

Overall, I am a very funny person who enjoys laughing. You can basically see me laughing every day, which is something everyone around me likes because I always manage to cheer them up.

When I am free, I like to go out in fresh air, especially in the countryside, where I can really enjoy peace with loved ones.

It helps me relax from all the stress and busy hospital environment. Every evening, I tend to read, since that is my childhood drug, you could say.

I read everything, from fantasy novels to thrillers and crime novels.

If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

You can see how these two Amandas are different.

The first one is very passionate about one thing, and she only talks about that one thing, while the other Amanda is very passionate about her job, but she also wrote her other qualities and interests, which makes his profile looks way more interesting.

9. Be a little silly

When writing an online dating profile, it is important to show people that you have a sense of humor or tell them something interesting about yourself, which could help you get more attention and a higher chance of finding the perfect match.

It doesn’t have to be an actual joke, just some funny story or fun fact about you, that could interest other people.

Examples

Overall, I am a very funny person who enjoys laughing.

You can basically see me laughing every day, which is something everyone around me likes because I always manage to cheer them up…’

‘…What I can say about myself is that lots of people find me to be a very funny and cheerful person, with perhaps too much affinity to dogs. I simply love dogs.

In my home town, whenever I met some dog on the street, I would bring him to my home and my dad would just go crazy, since we had already had three other dogs…’

In these examples, you can see what kind of person both these girls are.

Whether they are cheerful and funny or all serious.

It is little things that matter, they show you the types of personalities in each person.

And, unless you are asking for quick fun, you will always pay attention to both looks and personalities. This way, your profile would be much more interesting.

10. Be passionate

One of the very important characteristics of people in love is how they easily notice some small things their partners are passionate about.

It somehow triggers our brain and heart to love that person even more.

That is the reason why you should share your passions about the things you like the most of your online dating profile.

You never know who will find that to be very cute, and who might even fall in love with you mostly because of that. Whether it is your job, hobby or children, you should mention it.

An Example:

‘Howdy folks! My name is Julie, and I come from Houston. I work as a veterinarian, and I’m really passionate about animals.

My job can be a bit stressful, but you know, when you love something, it is not hard for you to do it. Making sure that animals are health really fills me in.’

For example, Amanda is really passionate about animals. She always likes to help them and keep them healthy and happy. That says a lot about Amanda’s personality.

By sharing this kind of information on your profile, you basically show people what kind of person you are.

Whether you are kind and funny, whether you like everything to be organized or whether you are selfless or not, etc.

Combining with all other elements of your dating profile, by using this, people can create a picture of your personality and decide whether you are a good match for them or not.

So, do not be afraid to show them who you really are and what are you passionate about.

11. Keep the conversation in mind

There are a lot of generic online dating profiles that seem to be very useless since they reveal almost nothing about the user.

In order to attract more people to your profile and have any hope of getting messages from them, you need to have an interesting profile.

When making a profile, you should keep in mind that it is not there just to be there. It is there to serve a purpose, which is to inform other people about what kind of person you are.

And with that in mind, you should always make sure to show something interesting, which could be used to start a conversation.

‘Hello, my name is Amanda. I am a 30 years-old doctor from Sacramento. There I work in a small hospital in one of the city suburbs.

Due to my busy line of work, it is really hard to find someone who is ready to endure living with a doctor. I registered here with the hope that I can find that special person here.

Overall, I am a very funny person who enjoys laughing. You can basically see me laughing every day, which is something everyone around me likes because I always manage to cheer them up.

When I am free, I like to go out in fresh air, especially in the countryside, where I can really enjoy peace with loved ones. It helps me relax from all the stress and busy hospital environment.

Every evening, I tend to read, since that is my childhood drug, you could say. I read everything, from fantasy novels to thrillers and crime novels.

If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

As you can see in the example, you can really learn a lot about Amanda simply by reading her profile description.

That gives you several options, which you could use to start a conversation with her. That is the effect you want to get with your own profile.

Don’t be afraid to open up and share some interesting things about you and always try to think whether the stuff you put on your profile could serve as a conversation starter, in order to have more topics that can men could use to contact you.

12. Tell your story

The main reason some people never get any matches on online dating sites is that they are usually very skeptical about opening up and sharing their own stories.

Thus, they end up writing almost generic-like profiles, instead of telling their own story.

Well, let me tell you something. That kind of thinking is completely wrong.

Yes, the internet can be a horrible place, with all the identity thefts and misuses of personal information, but we are not talking about sharing your credit card number here.

In order to have a nice profile, which would represent your own personality, you need to open up a bit, share your own story, let people get to know you.

Therefore, do not be afraid to write about your feelings, pets, children or any other thing you like, or perhaps about something you don’t like so much.

Storyteller Kate:

‘Hi, I’m Kate. I’m 47 years-old from Los Angeles.

I work as a shop owner, and I have three children, two grown-up sons, and one daughter.

My husband, who was 40 at the time, died in a car accident.

Now, after almost ten years, my children are all grown up, and they keep telling me that I am young and that I need to find someone to be happy with, that it’s what their father would want for me.

And they might be right, who knows.

Anyway, that is why I decided to register here and try to find that special person who would like to spend nice moments with me, talking about all kinds of stuff.

Someone who would simply want to enjoy their time with me.

As for myself, due to my line of work, being my own boss basically, I am a very busy person, with a lot of things to think about when it comes to my job.

Apart from that, I like to spend my free time reading and listening to music, which calms me and helps me relax.

Also, I enjoy trying out new types of food whenever a new restaurant is open.

So, you won’t have to worry about picking the place for our first date because I know almost every restaurant in LA and can find us the perfect place.

If you are, food adventurer like me or you simply want to discuss your favorite novel with me, feel free to send me a message.’

As you can see, Kate had really opened up her soul and told her life story.

When you read her profile, you can notice what kind of person she is, what she likes and doesn’t like to do, and how much her children love her, which is saying a lot about someone.

By having a profile like this, you would have a much higher chance of meeting someone who could perhaps relate to your story, or even find your personality interesting in a certain way.

So, the lesson here is not to be afraid to open up and tell your personal story.

Final Word OnCreating the Killer Online Dating Profile

So, ladies and gents, this was our quick course on how to make a killer online dating profile and accomplish your goals – no matter if they are meeting a person you want to spend the rest of your life with, or just having casual fun.

After making a profile, you should also know how to be a master in online dating, so be sure to check our guides on online dating for men and women.

Now that you know how to choose the website, nickname, create the most attractive profile picture of them all, and present yourself in the best possible way, you are ready to go out there and win over some harts!

In the very end, we can only advise that you pick your dates carefully from all of those that will be messaging you.

Because, if you follow all of our smart pieces of advice, we can assure you that tons of messages will be coming your way daily.

And, if you are new to this game of online dating, just relax, take it easy, and be your fabulous self.

We are sure that you will have so much fun!

After all, this is just about that – having fun and enjoying yourself the best you can!

And if you happen to find your soulmate along the way, we congratulate you and wish you all the best for the whole eternity.

Happy dating!