Chapter 9 – Elements of Magnetic Profile

Chapter 9 – Elements of Magnetic Profile

Making an online dating profile is not an easy task, especially not for a woman because there are thousands of fake profiles that just sit there.

In order to make your profile sound looks real, you need to consider several different elements.

Let’s see what they are.

1. Appeal

In order for men to show interest in you, it is a good way to use sentences that would boost your sex appeal and completely go inside men’s heads.

It doesn’t have to be anything vulgar, but good enough to drive any man crazy. Let’s see the example.

An Example

‘In man, I love when he is bigger than me so that when he hugs me, he is able to cover my whole body and make me feel so fragile and safe at the same time.

In those moments, I can feel real intimacy between him and me, which makes me go crazy.’

2. Personality

The next very important element to take into account when making an online dating profile is describing your personality.

This is crucial because by sharing as much as possible about yourself, you would allow people to see who you really are, which would help them decide easier if you are their perfect match or not.

A good way of doing that is describing certain qualities you have, like humor, intelligence or even some weirdness.

An Example:

‘Hello, I’m Laura, and I am 24 years old. I am a law student, and I decided to try out this website to find some cute boy since I really don’t have a lot of time to go out because of my studies.

And college boys at my university are just so boring.

What I can say about myself is that lots of people find me to be a very funny and cheerful person, with perhaps too much affinity to dogs.

I simply love dogs. In my home town, whenever I met some dogs on the street, I would bring him to my home and my dad would just go crazy, since we had already had three other dogs.

Apart from reading huge law books, I really enjoy reading novels, especially crime novels and thrillers. My favorite writer is Dan Brown.

If you’re the animal lover like me and you like to spend your free time playing with dogs in nature while resting and enjoying over the nice bottle of wine during nights, feel free to message me.’

As you can see in the example, we can tell a lot about Laura after reading her profile description.

We know how old she is, what kind of things she likes and doesn’t like, what her hobbies are, and what is her passion.

In other words, we learned a lot about her personality, which could help us if we decide to contact you and start a conversation about something that she likes.

That is why you need to be descriptive of your profile and share as many interesting things as possible, but keeping something for the real meetup.

3. Mystery/Adventure Stories

Everyone loves a good story. You can use that to boost the interest in your profile, by, for instance, telling a story without an ending, which would make them want to hear more and contact you.

Or simply tell an interesting story that would reflect your personality and allow them to get to know you better, like in the next example.

Kate’s Example

‘Hi, I’m Kate. I’m 47 years-old from Los Angeles. I work as a shop owner, and I have three children, two grown-up sons, and one daughter.

My husband, who was 40 at the time, died in a car accident.

Now, after almost ten years, my children are all grown up, and they keep telling me that I am young and that I need to find someone to be happy with, that it’s what their father would want for me.

And they might be right, who knows.

Anyway, that is why I decided to register here and try to find that special person who would like to spend nice moments with me, talking about all kinds of stuff.

Someone who would simply want to enjoy their time with me.

As for myself, due to my line of work, being my own boss basically, I am a very busy person, with a lot of things to think about when it comes to my job.

Apart from that, I like to spend my free time reading and listening to music, which calms me and helps me relax.

Also, I enjoy trying out new types of food whenever a new restaurant is open.

So, you won’t have to worry about picking the place for our first date because I know almost every restaurant in LA and can find us the perfect place.

If you are, food adventurer like me or you simply want to discuss your favorite novel with me, feel free to send me a message.’

As you can see in Kate’s example, she had shared that she is a widow and a mother of 3 children, which makes her story heartbreaking and sad, but also tells us that she is a very strong person, who had managed to lead her children to the right ways.

4. Security

Men often think women are weak and dependent on them.

While that might’ve been the case in the past, today it is definitely not.

However, some men still think that way, and you need to show them that you are not that kind of woman.

You need to show that you are a strong and independent woman, capable of standing on her own feet.

The way to do that is by saying how much you love your job or knowing what you really want in life and similar. Here is an example.

An Example:

Hi, my name is Amanda, and I am 30 years-old looking for a relationship.’

‘Hello, my name is Amanda. I am a 30 years-old doctor from Sacramento.

There I work in a small hospital in one of the city suburbs.

Due to my busy line of work, it is really hard to find someone who is ready to endure living with a doctor. I registered here with the hope that I can find that special person here.

Overall, I am a very funny person who enjoys laughing.

You can basically see me laughing every day, which is something everyone around me likes because I always manage to cheer them up.

When I am free, I like to go out in fresh air, especially in the countryside, where I can really enjoy peace with loved ones. It helps me relax from all the stress and busy hospital environment.

 Every evening, I tend to read, since that is my childhood drug, you could say.

I read everything, from fantasy novels to thrillers and crime novels.

If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

5. Qualifier/ who is Your Ideal Match

Another very important element to consider is to include what you expect to find out in your ideal match.

Make sure to write what type of person you want to meet and what are your expectations about it.

Here are a few examples.

Example:

‘…Due to my busy line of work, it is really hard to find someone who is ready to endure living with a doctor. I registered here with the hope that I can find that special person here.’

‘Hello, I’m Laura, and I am 24 years old. I am a law student, and I decided to try out this website to find some cute boy since I really don’t have a lot of time to go out because of my studies.

And college boys at my university are just so boring.’

6. Call to Action

In the end, you should try to put a call to action, so they know you are open to talks. Here are a few examples.

Examples:

If you feel intrigued by my profile and would like to learn more about me and tell me something about you, perhaps discuss what is your favorite book or writer, feel free to message me.

Who knows, perhaps it could lead to something more.’

If you are that kind of person and you are sure you could make me laugh, feel free to contact me.’

If you’re the animal lover like me and you like to spend your free time playing with dogs in nature while resting and enjoying over the nice bottle of wine during nights, feel free to message me.’

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