So you’ve recently walked on stage, picked up your certificate and thrown your graduation cap High high in the air.
It’s not time to get your big boy boots on and start looking for a job. Alongside all of the other changes that you were probably going through, the thought hits you about what you are going to do about dating after college!
In this article, I’m going to be talking about all the differences between dating in college and dating in the real world. On top of that, it is more of a guide on how to date after college as this scene is significantly different.
By the end, you will have plenty of ideas on how to meet guys/girls after college in graduation. You will come out of this article with newfound hope and plenty of new ideas on how to jump right into the dating scene.
Because the truth is, dating after college can be very difficult for lots of people. You got so used to meeting people and classes, labs, college groups, etc. None of this will exist outside of college so you will need to learn to adapt quickly.
Let me stop jibber-jabbering and hop right into how the two are different and what you will need to get accustomed to in order to have success dating after the University. I will have two primary sections, one dedicated to women trying to meet men after college and another one for men trying to meet women after college.
Was the difference between dating during college and after college?
In a nutshell, the differences between dating in college in dating after college are the number of opportunities that are sitting on your lap.
In college you’re continually going to classes, sporting events, joining groups and going to frat parties in sorority parties. You see thousands of people every day just walking through campus.
Being on campus is the equivalent of living in it big city where everybody is flying through going every which direction.
The dating landscape after college is much different, and it takes a little bit more planning to meet people.
This is especially true if you move back to your small hometown. People that move to larger cities typically have more of the college feel even after college has ended.
Dating after graduation takes more effort. Most people are on a full-time working schedule at this point so even simply trying to organize a time to meet can be much more complicated.
What it comes down to is organizing your time with your friends to be put in a social situation where you could meet new people. Commonplaces are meeting up in bars (if you are 21), art galleries, sporting events, online dating or even joining local meetups.
For you ladies out there, let’s start with how to meet guys after college.
How to meet guys after college?
Typically one’s perception of where to meet people to start dating change after they graduate. For example, during college, there is a stigma for people that use online dating to meet other people.
After college, however, that stigma completely disappears. This is due to the difficulty people generally have after college with meeting new people. Most people use online dating services at some point after recently graduating.
With online dating, a whole new world of meeting people opens up to literally within hours of finally giving it a shot.
What makes online dating so great is that you can pick from a much larger pool of people than those you typically see during your day-to-day routine.
Another benefit to online dating is the ability to search and filter through the type of people you want to get to know.
There are dozens of different niche dating websites such as men looking for older women, Nerds looking for other nerds, fitness individuals looking for similar gym goers and many more. Finding people online with similar likes and dislikes has never been easier than it is in this modern era.
A large part of this is because so many people are now using online dating as the stigma has slowly been dying over the last 20 years.
Some great dating websites for women include bumble, match.com, eHarmony, and Zoosk. These are just a few of my favorite dating sites. Depending on what type of niche person you are trying to find, there are hundreds of other ones to choose from.
Overall I think that match.com and eHarmony are the best depending on what you are looking for. Match.com and Zoosk have the most fish in the sea to choose from. They have strong search and filter features and offer premium memberships with additional features to find the person you are looking for.
EHarmony is great for people that like to sit back and let the dating website do all the work. It will send you five compatible matches a day based on its dating algorithm. I don’t know how the creators of eHarmony did it, but they really came up with a fantastic way of matching compatible individuals.
Bumble is a cool idea for a dating website because it requires the women to message the man first. You can rest assured that you will not be bombarded by gross messages from random guys on this platform.
Real-life spots you could meet men post-graduation
If you are still holding onto the notion “love at first sight” and you refuse to get into online dating, here are some great spots to meet men after college.
Instead of meeting guys walking around campus you can try going to public parks. This works extremely well especially if you are looking for a guy that has a cute dog. This is a great conversation starter if you are both walking her dogs.
Just as you used to be able to meet guys in class, you can try joining a club or coed sports team. Most cities offer some sort of Parks and Recreation type service that you can join a team.
You do not need to gather up 10 to 15 people to do this. You will be able to join one all by yourself if need be.
In place of the sorority in frat parties that you used to go to, you will now have the whole wide world of bars and clubs to give it a try. This is where the majority of single guys that are ready to mingle will congregate.
Another place to meet guys is your local gymnasium. While you are both there trying to better yourselves, working up a sweat and letting your pheromones run wild, this could be a perfect opportunity to spark up a conversation.
These are the most common places to meet a guy after you graduate from your university. To be honest, online dating is much safer than meeting a random guy in a random club or bar. Always make sure to be responsible with your drinking when you go out.
How to meet women after college?
Okay guys, now it’s your turn. Where are the best places to meet women after college? Although there are some differences, there are also some similarities.
Once again, online dating
I’m sure you are not surprised about seeing this once again. After all, for every guy that uses online dating, there’s typically one other girl as well. The male to female ratio overall with online dating is pretty close to 50-50.
With online dating, you will be able to assess your compatibility with the various women that are using the website. This all depends on what you are trying to find with online dating. Are you looking for something serious? Are you looking to date around and test the waters or are you simply looking for a quick fling?
If you are looking for a serious relationship, I suggest checking out either eHarmony or match.com. Both of these websites have huge user bases.
Online for serious relationships
As I mentioned above, match.com is great for searching and filtering through the population on their website to find the perfect match (no pun intended). eHarmony is for people that would like to sit back and let compatible matches come to their inbox every day.
For dating around
For dating around you can use free websites such as OKCupid or Zook.
Online for a quick fling
For quick flings and one night stands you can check out some popular websites such as Benaughty and adult friend finder. If this is all you are interested in, I recommend checking out my article on one-night stand websites.
The biggest recommendation I have is to stay away from entirely free websites as they typically have tons of fake profiles, people that are looking to scam or girls that are simply there for an ego boost.
Paid dating websites on the other hand typically verify the identification of their users, are safer and have people that are looking to meet up with one another.
The typical price per month ranges between $10 and $20 for paid websites. Although this might have seemed like a lot of money before graduation, you probably have a big boy job now and can afford it. Trust me; you won’t regret it.
Real-world places to meet new women after graduation
If you are looking to meet women in the real world, a lot of the suggestions mentioned above still apply.
The bars and clubs are always a popular option to find single women ready to mingle. The only thing is, it’s difficult to open up a group of women especially if you don’t have your guy friends with you.
My suggestion is to come in a group of approximately 3 guys. This is the sweet spot between not appearing like a guy that doesn’t have friends and an overwhelming amount of guys.
Walking your dog around a local park is a great conversation opener especially if the girl you notice also is with her puppy. The park is also a great place to go on the weekend with friends to play sports, drink some beers and relax. Typically there are lots of other groups doing similar things that you can connect with.
Talking to girls at the gym might seem daunting at first, but it is one of the better places to meet women in the real world. It establishes that you both have similar interests which are already a great conversation starter. Just make sure not to bother her especially if she has her headphones on. Wait until she hits up the drinking fountain or is in the lobby.
If you are somebody that works online or from his computer, I suggest going to a sweet coffee shop as there are typically lots of other people just like you that are working there. Talking to a woman at a coffee shop is a lot easier than one might think.
Overall these are the best places to meet women after college. This combined with online dating is the way to go if you want to meet people after graduation. You should definitely use a combination of the two in order to have the highest chances of success.
The conclusion on dating after college
Well, there you have it, ladies and gentlemen, the ultimate guide on dating after college.
I would take a lot of these tips in mind as the dating landscape is significantly different from pre-graduation and post-graduation.
There are some things that you will need to get used to as overall it is not nearly as easy to find somebody after college.
The biggest thing is to get over the stigma of online dating. It’s not 1999 anymore and basically; everybody is now using online dating to meet new people.
If you refuse to use online dating, there are still plenty of other ways to meet people. You have to put yourself out there, join clubs, start new hobbies and create a schedule that will allow you to do this.
What other tips and recommendations do you guys have for dating after college? What has worked for you and what hasn’t worked? I want to start a good conversation down below so that I can continue to add to this article and improve on it.
Until next time everybody and good luck with dating after graduation and I am sure you will find that particular person with a little bit of searching!